分手后，你身边多了一堆几乎能丢弃到阁楼的东西：手机上、电脑上、邮箱里，到处都是它们的身影。它们曾经是对你而言很重要的东西，现在依旧是。它们是能勾起你眼泪的东西，也是你曾爱过的东西。你该拿它们怎么办?

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　　It's impossible to plow through a committed relationship in an industrialized nation without piling up an abundant digital record. You'll have chat transcripts, tagged photos on Facebook, beautiful photos from a DSLR, email letters, Skype call screenshots, texts—so, so many texts. Your first instinct will be to throw it all away。

　　在这个发达的工业化国家，一段认真的感情结束后必然会留下大量的数字记录。你们的聊天记录、Facebook上标着名字的合影、数码相机里的美丽合照、邮件往来、Skype网络电话的截图、手机短信……大量的手机短信。你的第一想法肯定是把它们全扔光、删光吧。

　　That's not a reflex to be ashamed of—just like you wouldn't want to stare at a framed photo of your ex while you're hurting, you don't want to look at hundreds of messages and JPEGs detailing that person either. We're all hypersensitive when it happens, and we're living in an age of hyper-info. There are more grains of salt to catch in your heart wound than ever before. This isn't easy—but let's try。

　　有这种想法不必羞愧。当你正在伤心的时候，不想看到那个前任的照片;抑或是不想看到跟ta之间的数百条短信、各种亲密照一样，这些都可以理解。分手后我们都会变得极度敏感，尤其身处这个充斥着过度信息的时代。对于我们来讲，心上的伤口会被洒更多的盐巴。这不是件容易事儿。但是让我们来试着应对吧。

　　Wait等待

　　Wait a month. Wait longer. Wait until you can look at his or her Facebook profile without feeling something bad in your chest, or the urge to throw your laptop. No good decision, in this century or any other, has ever been made in the fresh wake of a breakup. Please, please don't throw your laptop。

　　等一个月，或更久。直到你可以坦然直视ta的Facebook主页而不会感到阵阵心痛，或有种直接想扔了笔记本的冲动。从古到今，没有什么正确的决定是在刚分手的时候做出的。请千万遏制住那种冲动，别扔了笔记本。

　　Photos照片

　　Don't delete these. Really, don't. You'll regret it if you do. Not because maybe someday you'll get back together and be so glad you kept it all. You probably won't. But these pictures aren't just small monuments to a failed romance, they're high-resolution instants from your life, recorded forever, unfading. It's not just your ex's smile that you miss and wish you could have back, it's the way you were at a particular moment a shutter snapped and a digital sensor touched light. It's your dog, your apartment, your haircut, your vacation, your job, your old bike—everything that was you for that moment, regardless of who you were dating and who you loved. This is matter you'll want years and decades from now—don't be rash and trash it。

　　别删了它们。真的别这样做，否则你会后悔的。并不是说以后你们还有复合的可能，到时候你就会庆幸没有删了它们，因为你们很可能不会复合了;而是因为这些照片不仅是一段失败恋情的纪念，同时也是你人生某些时刻的缩影和记录，它们是永久的不可磨灭的记忆。它们对你来讲，不仅仅装着你迷恋的前任恋人的微笑(你多么希望能让这笑容再次回到你身边)，它是每一个快门声后对你人生的光影记录。它里面记录了你的狗、你的公寓、你的发型、你的假期、你的工作、你的老单车 ——所有你在那一刻的模样，而无论你在和谁约会，又在爱着谁。这是你会想要去珍惜一辈子的东西，不要因为一时冲动而把它们都删掉。